Friday, 28 August 2015

Being Different


Have you ever had anxious thoughts about others' perception of you? Do you ever feel you should behave or dress in a certain way in order to fit into the crowd? 

Today I wanted to write a post that differs form my usual fashion and travel themes. This idea was inspired by a recent boat trip that I was invited to. I have been thinking about this idea for a while but I was really worried that this topic may seem a little...controversial. Also, I worried that others may misunderstand the meaning behind this post.

I never spoke of this topic to anyone except those who are close to me. I decided to take a DEEP breathe and make this post happen because I wanted to help encourage others to be brave and to be themselves, just as others have helped me.  

Most of the time I can come across as a very chatty and bubbly person. However I do have a certain insecurity, bikinis. The thought of wearing a bikini makes me feel really self-conscious and I feel extremely insecure. Nevertheless in this day and age, almost every single girl wears a bikini when they go swimming. I have been wearing a swimsuit for a number of years. Gradually over the years I felt 'old fashioned' because I received comments from acquaintances about my swimwear. When the time came for me to replace my swimsuit, I decided to 'upgrade' myself to a tankini. Unfortunately I felt even more anxious about my new tankini...Lol

I don't want to drag this post and end up writing an essay, so here is my story of facing peer pressure and self-consciousness. 


I hope sharing my story has helped you understand that it is ok to be different. 
We are all different in our own way so don't be afraid to be yourself. 


 No matter what you're anxious about, it's ok. 
We are only humans after all, I'm still learning to overcome anxieties too! 
We are in this together!

Thank you so much for reading. Please feel free to leave a comment to share your views or advice on overcoming anxiety. 

Have a lovely day.*BIG hug* (^-^)

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  1. There is so much pressure everywhere around us to look good that it's normal to feel that way! Thanks for sharing this Alyce!
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    1. Thank you so much for your comment Jeanne. Yes, after meeting my friend I realised we are not alone in this. It's normal to feel pressure from others' around us. At the end of the day, we just need to be ourselves because it's what inside our heart that counts. :D

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  2. Great video, I love your positive vibe and the thoughts you shared!

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    1. Thank you so much Carina! :D I hope to help and encourage others' too. It's not easy to stay positive at times but we are not alone in this. We all have those days, and we just need to remember to be ourselves.

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  3. Loved this

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  4. I definitely think there are a lot of pressures and I don't like wearing a bikini in fact even a swimsuit doesn't cover my woes as I hate my legs :( WAH being a girl is tough xxx

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    1. Thank you for your comment Jessica! Yes... >_< It's not easy, especially when everyone around you is doing the same thing and you're not. I think it's absolutely fine to wear whatever we want because it's what inside our hearts that count. I actually considered wearing a diving suit before. LOL! XD

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    1. Thank you so much Suvarna! I'm really happy that you like the video. :D

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  6. I always wear what I feel comfortable in, not what someone want you to wear, because your own confidence is something that makes you look good.
    Great post, thanks for sharing your positive thoughts!

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    1. Thank you for your comment Elekon! Yes, it's true! :D Confidence is very important, it can help us shine. I'm glad you enjoyed reading this post.

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  7. Wear what you're comfortable in and when you wear it with confidence, then you'll look fabulous. I think the media is a lot to blame for the society to be so self conscious about body issues. I do like that more like you are speaking up against it, keep it up!

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    1. Thank you so much for your comment Shireen! I agree, confidence is very important it can make a difference to how we present ourselves. That's why I want to encourage others to be bold and be themselves. :D We shouldn't let others define who we are!

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  8. You will be faboulous in bikini, you are beautiful, but whatever you feel confortable with you will be good!!
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    1. Thank you so much for your kind comment! :D That would be lovely, I will check out your blog!

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  9. This one was truly inspiring. Go for what makes you comfortable because that'll make you feel confident. Beauty is so much more than the type of clothes and the brands you wear. Go girl!

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    1. Thank you so much for your comment Anne. :D It's true, confidence is very important. At the end of the day, it's what inside our hearts that count.

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  10. You don't have to worry about other people comments...and be just you.

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    1. Thank you so much for your comment Veronica! I agree, we should be ourselves because it's what inside our hearts that count. :D

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  11. This is such a good post! Thank you for discussing this topic. I think many people feel self-conscious at times but are too scared to talk about it. It is good that you brought this topic to light!

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    1. Thank you so much for your comment Chameen! I was a bit worried at the start because I wasn't sure how this post might be portrayed. But I really want to help and encourage others to be themselves, just as others have helped me. :D

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  12. Oh my gosh! I absolutely love this post and the video! You're the best. I always feel self-conscious, especially in a bikini, too. I love my body, I just don't always feel confident with other people looking at it.

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    1. Thank you so much for your kind comment Connie! I'm really glad that you like this post. At the end of the day we should wear whatever we feel comfortable in. I actually thought of wearing a diving suit before. LOL! XD
      Yes, I know what you mean. I can get really anxious when I go to the beach and I'm still learning to be more confident. At the end of the day, it's what inside our hearts that count. :D

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  13. Love this video, it is tough when the media pushes their own ideology of what is beautiful, what we should wear and don't wear. I always wear what I'm comfortable no matter what.
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    1. Thank you so much for your comment Diana. I'm glad that you like the video. It's true, sometimes we might end up doing something that we don't want to do. We should remember to be who we are, and be ourselves. I'm really happy that you wear whatever makes you comfortable. :D You set a great example.

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  14. Really great post! I also feel self-conscious about many things, and it feels like there is so much pressure around as well

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    1. Thank you for your comment Allure! I understand where you're coming from, it's not easy fighting off these negative thoughts. Don't worry, I'm learning myself too! Just remember to be yourself and stay happy. It's what inside our hearts that count. :D

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  15. I definitely agree with this post, it does hit the mark on how controversial this topic is. Great video!

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  16. Always try to be confident in being yourself! Being unique and different is what makes you special! If we all did they same things, what a boring world this would be! :) Your hair looks super cute in that braid too!

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    1. Thank you so much Laura! ^_^ I agree, we shouldn't be afraid of being ourselves. We are all special in our own way.

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  17. this is such a fantastic, lovely and inspiring post my dear! thank you so much for sharing :) totally agree with every word <3

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  18. Love this post! So sweet that you spread such an uplifting message :)

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    1. Thank you so much Molly! ^_^ Glad that you like this post.

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  19. I wear swimsuits, too! I just packed my suitcase for my holiday and it's all swimsuits. I just feel so much better in them!

    Corinne x
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    1. :D :D I'm sure you look fabulous! Hope you have a fantastic trip Corinne!

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  20. Aww love it hun so nice and sweet of you to make such an uplifting vid.
    Ur very pretty.
    Thank you for sharing this with us hun.
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    1. Thank you so much for your kind comment Dominica. ^_^

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  21. Loved reading this post and watching this video! Such a refreshing post to read this evening and I completely agree with everything you shared. It's ok to be different sometimes and for each of us to embrace our uniqueness. Hope you're having a great weekend :)

    xoxo Nicole

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    1. Thank you so much for your lovely comment Nicole! ^_^ I'm glad that you like this post. I agree, we are all special in our own way. :D

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  22. Its us and the world we live in. Too much attention is given on outside which is turning people's head. Great topic to write about, gal. Thanks for the encouragement. :)

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    1. Thank you so much for your comment Mavis! ^_^ I'm glad that you like this post. Have a nice week!

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  23. Great video and a lovely text! Confidence is key and it's totally fine to accept that. It's easier said than done but as soon as we do, life becomes so much easier!

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    1. Thank you so much Naomi. ^_^ It's true, confidence is very important!

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  24. This is such a lovely topic to have brought up and reassured people about - everyone have their anxieties, no matter who they are! :)

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    1. Thank you so much Gabrielle! It's true, that's why I think it's important for us to stay happy and be ourselves. :D

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  25. aww. this is such a lovely heartwarming post. thank you :)

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    1. Thank you so much Jessica! ^_^ Glad that you like this post.

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  26. Love this post! :)
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  27. You’re officially one of my favourite bloggers, keep up the great work! xxx



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  28. I mostly come across bubbly and cheerful, too! I've been struggling with self-consciousness and insecurities but I think I'm getting better. "The only opinion that matters is your own." xx

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    1. Thank you so much for your comment and wonderful quote! :D Really happy to hear that you're getting better at managing your insecurities. I'm in the learning process too, we are in this together! Stay happy!

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  29. excellent post
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  30. Love this post! I used to be very anxious about my body too when I was younger, and I still am about other things. I LOVE the Dr Seuss quote! I think especially "Oh the places you'll go" is one of the most inspirational books ever!

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    1. Thank you for your comment Rose! I think anxiety can be really nasty to deal with, we need to stay positive and be ourselves! :D Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts and the book recommendation. I definitely need to check out that book. :D Have a nice week, stay happy!

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  31. I could not have said it better myself. Thank you for such an uplifting and positive post!

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    1. Thank you so much Chelsea for taking the time to read this. I'm really happy that you enjoyed reading it! :D

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  32. I really like the thoughts and positive vibes you are sharing in your video!

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    1. Thank you so much Tanya! I'm glad that you liked the video. :D

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  33. Love this post! Especially the Dr. Seuss quote :)
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  34. Oh yes, I totally understand ! Some time I wear a dress or a top and I think "mmm it's too elegant"... but now I can change this and think oh I like it and I wear it :) x

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    1. I like your positivity! :D I'm sure you look beautiful! I think it's always nice to try out new pieces of clothing, that's how we discover our dress sense and styles.

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  35. it's so true.. thanks for this!
    and im a new follower :) cant wait to see you on my blog too :)

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  36. Everytime I need to take a flight to some place I get anxious, but i'm trying to get over that . Great post here and it's always a great thing to be different and not fit in.

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    1. Don't worry we all have things that we get anxious about, it's normal! We are in this together! I hope flying will gradually get better for you. Yes, being different is what makes us who we are. We should be happy and be ourselves! Thank you so much for your comment Uzo! :D

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  37. Everytime I need to take a flight to some place I get anxious, but i'm trying to get over that . Great post here and it's always a great thing to be different and not fit in.

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  38. Everytime I need to take a flight to some place I get anxious, but i'm trying to get over that . Great post here and it's always a great thing to be different and not fit in.

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  39. thanks for sharing your insecurities and reminding us that we are not alone in having them. such encouragement to us girls! thank you.

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    1. Thank you so much for your comment Elle! :D We are all fighting anxieties together! I want to encourage others like my friend who encouraged me.

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  40. In our society, there's a lot of pressure of thinking of fitting in to it.
    I mean gadgets, technology, social media, fashion, trend, cars, etc.
    It all go on one way-- i think people should think different.
    Instead of going with the flow, why not make any change at all

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    1. Thank you for your comment Zarrah! It's true, sometimes we may buy certain goods to fit in with the crowd. We shouldn't be afraid of being different, because it's what makes us 'us'. :D

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  41. Great video ! <3

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  42. This is a great message!! I really get what you're talking about, I think a lot people struggle with this.
    But, in the end, life's all about trying to be happy, right? ^-^

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    1. Thank you so much for your comment Carla. It's true, we need to be ourselves and be happy. ^_^

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  43. Thanks for sharing this super cool video! I have wondered about what other people think of me many times, and just recently stopped caring so much. That's when I decided to open my blog. If people think it is narcissistic, ridiculous, a waste of time, or anything else, is THEIR problem, and my only concern is to be happy. Keep it up girl!

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    1. Thank you for your comment Natalia! I'm really happy that you're taking a positive approach. It's true, we shouldn't care about what others think of us. We need to stay positive and be happy! :D

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  44. Thanks for sharing this! I do really agree with you. That's a really great quote from Dr. Seuss dear.
    Hope you have a great week ahead.

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    1. Thank you for your comment Mitch! Really glad that you like this post. It's one of my faouvrite quotes. You, too have a great week! :D

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  45. Great post Alyce. I'm inspired!

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    1. Thank you so much for your comment Belinda! ^_^ Really happy that you found this post inspirational.

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  46. The story about your swimwear shows that you should wear what you want/in what you feel secure, not what is fashionable/trendy. Totally agree with you, being different is nothing wrong, it makes you special :)

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    1. Thank you for your comment Ivonne! I agree, we shouldn't feel pressured into wearing something that we don't want to. :D We should be happy and be ourselves.

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  47. Thanks for sharing, it's a beautiful post, and I think we all have insecurities, personally I hate my forehead, therefore I always have bangs!

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    1. Thank you for your comment Elise. :D
      Yes, I think everyone has their own insecurities. We need to stay positive and be happy.You're beautiful Elise! :)

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  48. Aw this was the cutest video, and I completely agree with everything you said. I always try to not care what people think of me and what I am wearing and I think I've gotten quite good at it now but sometimes it is difficult not to worry! I love that Dr Sues quote so much!

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    1. Thank you so much for your comment Alice! ^_^ I'm really happy to hear that you like this post and the quote. Keep up the positivity!

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  49. Great post! I actually have the same insecurity as you. It’s important though, to find some way to overcome these as they can really impact on your entire life! I love the post though, hanks for sharing an important message :)

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    1. Thank you so much for your comment Shannon! Yes, I agree. Insecurities can really drag us down and ruin our day. We need to stay positive and be happy. :)

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  50. True, True, True :)

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  51. Great video! :)
    Would you like to follow each other? I always follow back:)
    Have a nice day!
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  52. Wonderful video, Alice! You sound and look amazing! I love the Dr. Seuss quote and totally agree with doing your own thing. Have a fun day!

    xo, Bry

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    1. Thank you so much for your kind comment Bry! ^_^ I'm glad that you like the quote too, it's one of my favourite quotes! Have a great week!

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  53. Wonderful video, Alice! You sound and look amazing! I love the Dr. Seuss quote and totally agree with doing your own thing. Have a fun day!

    xo, Bry

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  54. This is so interesting. My experience has been very different~ I always wore one-pieces and most of my friends did too. In fact my sister always wears a T-shirt over hers even in the water. I recently started wearing bikinis because they are way more flattering on my pear shape body. I never thought your choice of what to wear was something to be self-conscious about, thanks for the enlightening post!

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    1. Thank you for sharing your experience Gina. :D I'm glad that you found your ideal swimwear. I think everyone has different insecurities and mine happened to be my swimwear. At the end of the day I think it's important to be positive and confident. It's what on the inside that matters. :)

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  55. May I share a little anxiety with you? I'm not so self confident in bikini, I'm not a pinup girl... so I understand you really well... :)))

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  56. you are so cute!

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  57. So inspiring. Love your positive energy (:
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